Here's what one subscriber wrote to me and Ausra:
"You’re completely right that performing music in front of an audience is important, and it’s exhilarating and useful in getting rid of performance anxiety. I now have 10 minutes of music in my head, and it’s an awesome feeling. I’m most grateful for leading me towards this point - you are wonderful teachers and I find your hints and materials very helpful and very important for my progress.
I find that playing a duet is especially demanding and forces a certain discipline - a very positive one, of course. My daughter (viola player) has been playing for 2.5 years and she can easily play the entire piece without gross mistakes, without stopping and at a chosen tempo. It has forced me to to stay very focused, and to know how to catch up or work around my own beginner’s mistakes. It also forced me to listen to how my playing meshed with hers: she holds the tempo much better than I do, so I must exactly follow her and pay attention. It’s harder but the benefits of it are noticeable, I think. I know that not many of your students may have a musician living with them to play with, but those that do should I think take every advantage of it if they can. Never mind the joy of performing with your own child or spouse. Keep doing what you’re doing - you give me much joy." (Kuba)
So you see, these tips do work for real people. Just keep on practicing and when things get tough, remember to make good art.