Isn't it frustrating when the organist has to deal with the people who constantly let you down, who use you in an ugly way?
They talk to you as if they are masters but in reality are nothing more than couch-quarterbacks or weekend warriors at best. They have no idea what it takes to show up in front of strangers, let yourself be vulnerable and play.
Yes, it's painful to deal with those kinds of people.
We should run away from them.
Even better: connect with people who are better than you.
Say to the trouble-makers:
"I'm sorry but this is not for you. I'll go talk to these guys instead."
[Thanks to Francois]